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Better be alone that to suffer... If I ever be with someone who badly wants to have a relationship with someone else, I'd radically cut ties with her, and this would be a permanent decision, no matter how painful it is. I am not to suffer for people who do not give a s*** about my feelings. No remorse or mercy on my part, then.
That is all I can say.

There's always someone looking to make a dollar on the insecurities of others, but I didn't know that such a high volume of people surveyed WANTING to genuinely be unfaithful. That's kind of sad, if the family units in Japan are really that strained or ineffective.

I wonder why that is? I know some Japanese friends of mine find that many of the girls are brought up with a sort of 'soft' upbringing making them too passive for their liking but I don't know if this really applies?

Could the reason someone wants to risk drama by being unfaithful mean a desire for excitement?

what if you saw your candy girl or dakimakura with another man, do you need a detective?

One man to one woman please!
I think people, especially guys think that they could get away with anything... Like Makoto from Nice Boat, I mean School Days....

Heads will most definitely roll if i was ever betrayed.

i wonder if those detectives rely on these cases to survive

I would never cheat on a girl. (im a bit of a ladies man) I dont like treating people like shit unless its really called for. like when im a manager or a supervisor at work. just because i get paid more & have more responsabilities doesnt mean that i want to be treated any differently from the people im working with.

Ive had girls cheat & walk out on me plenty of times but me myself will never lower myself to other peoples standards. (I know it sounds like im really up myself but im really an alright guy - trust me)

What the hell ever happened to love and commitment?

adultery is universal...

A lot of posts above, talking about throwing the adulterer out on their asses.

Not a bad idea but this is far eastern culture we're dealing with. In general, even if they find out that their spouse is cheating on them, they will stick by their partner because, in the far east, divorce is frowned apon even more so than adultery. sad but true.
In fact, so long as it doesn't change the status quo, I owuldn't be surprised if one party would turn a blind eye to it, even if it's blatantly obvious.

As for the ones who wish to commit adultery, I'd put money on saying they just think about doing it for a bit of excitement. hence, why they don't actually do it. Kinda like a wierd fantasy.

Oh great, Kogoro Mouri real action movie? I'll be looking forward to it!

That much money for just 5 hours of following someone's every move? Geez, I'd rather do it myself. At least there's no excuse when i jump in right in the middle of the action and say, "Aha! Gotcha!" LOL

What if they don't find any evidence. Is there a money-back guarantee?

It's so sad that the percentage of unfaithful men/women is so high. I think I will die if I found my partner is unfaithful to me.

honestly...I dont know what I would do if I came back home from work one night and I find my wife being nailed by some other guy. I think I would just walk outside and light up a smoke.

one common thing, I think, would be is to beat up the guy, but I think fighting for a girl who isnt faithful to u isnt worth doing.

One of the worst things that could happen to you, is for you to catch your loved one cheating on you. I really hope I don't have to go through that.

Adultry is so prominent in Japan a friend of mine over there told me they made a tv show about it for entertainment. What happens is they interview one of the people (mostly the guy) to determine what kinda person their significant other prefers. Then they find an actor that matches the description and sets up a situation to incidently meet up with them. The actor will flirt with that person, and ask them for a date to see if they bite. If they agree, the bf/gf will show up in the middle of the date and Surprise! Heartbreak.

Don't know if its still on, and as I said its most shows have the girl getting busted as guys tend to go for the bait too often. Guess no entertainment value in that. Danny, can you confirm?

One pays 85,000 yen for five hours of detective work, which is pain number one. It sure will take more than five hours for the detective to do his job. Later comes pain number two when one finds out the person they trust is messing around. Well, there is no getting out of this world for free.

Look at the percentages here in Danny's post and it is us guy that need to worry the most. Men may think about it, but the women are going for it.

There is adultery in every culture.

I don't think these statistics are a surprise at all when looking at Japanese culture. Like someone mentioned before, because divorce is such a taboo in Asia, committing adultery is more of an "exciting secret" if you will to Japanese men. Not to mention it's very easy to access a willing girl to pleasure you in Japan for X amount of Yen.

Also, from a sociological perspective, monogamy is unnatural. A lot of you should realize that having one partner is a man-made ideal born through religions like Christianity and such.

Putting these thoughts together and adding the stress and confinement many Japanese business men feel in in their repetitive lives (go to work, come home) it's really not such a shocking statistic.

With that said, I have to say that if my man ever cheated on me (and I found out about it), I would certainly feel awful, like he saw me as being insufficient for his sake.

No need, alone.

For people thinking these numbers are exclusive to Japan... think again. They are probably even worse on western countries.

I have yet to reach a conclusion on those themes... marriage, divorce and cheating.

But what I do see happening a lot is couples getting married without even thinking a lot on what they are about to do.

Divorces have become so easy and normal nowadays that I even saw some people marrying thinking stuff like "if it doesn't work out, we just get a divorce and NO PROBLEMO!

Oh, I'm already 27, so I do have lots of married friends. And I must say, more than half of them already cheated their wives one way or the other.

It's really controversial... Brazil is one very catholic country, but I'd bet those statistics Danny displayed are far worse here.. I'd say the numbers are double or more that.

I just heard this story today at work: the spouses of a couple who were having an affair both hired the same investigator to follow their respective marriage partners. She got paid twice to do one job. Nice work if you can get it.

OMG, you better watch your dolphin.. i mean, your back.

Cheating in Japan is common. Almost everyone does it. As long as you don't get caught, nobody really cares. And if you do get caught. all you gotta do is say oh I'm sorry and then keep on cheating. As long as you let your partner save face, you can cheat as much as you want.

I wonder, if a married man goes to those Yakuza run places in Shibuya. do Japanese women consider that Adultery? I heard from some Japanese business acquaintances that it's not. although I have yet to ask their wives if this were true. ^^;

I wonder whether the advert showing the dog refers to "watchdog" or catching a "dirty dog" that's doing the cheating.

Either way i hope i'll never have to employ their services.

I'm not so naive as to believe as cheating would never happen. In fact, it's why I've dropped out of the "market" for a while -- infidelity issues on part of the other party, not me.

That said, I wonder what would be the reaction if people were openly polygamous?

Are you kidding? I'm a limousine driver. The private investigators find me to ask questions!

hehe, thats interesting to see posters like this. I'm glad I'm not in need of this right now hehe, cheaper to just break up then to have detective. This is something I'm more used to seen in movies or with high class people.

The question should rather be: Do I trust my wife / husband? If the answer is no, than there is something going wrong in your relationship. A simple thing like confidence in someone is a crucial thing to establish a durable relationship.

I don't think that I need to worry about adultery for now as it still seems far away from me, seeing how I'm not in any romantic relationship and still haven't found any suitable mate yet.

i would think that 残業 (zanngyou, overtime work) and all would tire them out... you know ^^.

Such stuff makes up the basics of a standard evening Singaporean serial drama... but then again Singapore could use more of said services.

Adultery...I hate to say...is male human nature.

"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering."

I figure less than 50 percent of couples who are married have any business being so (not scientifically concluded or anything, just a gut feeling). If the divorce rates in most develped countries level out at around 50 percent, then I guess my insticts are right.

nooo i dont need a detective hehe i broke up with my girlfriend 1 month ago

I like it!

The results are really shocking. I can't belive that there are really so many unfaithful people. If women would make the highest rate then, it would be a little understandible because japanese men work a lot, but it's really suprising that men have highest. Well, sure japanese women are really loyal. ^^ But what are the men doing? They want something new? I can't understand.

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