wow...is yr wife reading this? lol u a very brave man...don't think i would dare do some of the things u did.
haha yeah, those were some awesome stuff you did with the flowers and everything. I'll love to hear more about the story with your wife though. :D
me too, i like to know more about your wife. what's that special something that makes her unique?
3rd'd!
4th!!! Your a braver soul then me, I've only had one girl confess to me, but I don't have the heart to run out and give a girl flowers. I'm such a wimp. XD
5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th and 10th!!!! heheh ^^ Man, you are one brave and determined soul! I'd never be able to do the stuff you did. LOL. By any chance do you have pictures of these girls? Care to post any of them? :D I'm a fan of Kylie as well. I'm still amazed how beautiful she still is at her age. I still can't believe you chasing the car in roller skates. hahah! That would have been a sight to see.
"I finally found her when working part time at a Japanese restaurant - she approached me first ^^; " Was talking about my wife ^^; I need to go into more detail about her then but will do so in a future post.
well if ur married u usually have that talk before u get married on who you've been with and how many times etc. so this should be old news to her.. but still brave of Danny to post his intimates..:D
If only all confessions involved flowers and extreme sports... But seriously, this was a great post. Thanks for posting about the personal stuff.
I'm almost 1/4 century old , and still ronery ;__; Still finding the right girl. Not sure if my taste too high, or I'm looking someone thats impossibly as cute as kipi/arisa. Duh~
Oh god Im turning 25 this october. Eh f it. Girls are a dime a dozen, (and for girls its the same the other way round) but really Im actually trying not to get into any kind of relation whatsoever. To me my career, and future success depends on me being focused enough that a relationship in the future wont be much of a distraction. But right now, I got GDD (girl deficit disorder) everytime I see a girl i wanna ask her out. Only way to control this urge is avoiding it to the bare minimum. If i loose focus and chase girls i cant be making the money which is very important now. hopefully will get back in the game by 26, 27, same age my parents met each other.
"Dime a dozen" you say, but to find (and keep) the very special one (not to say soulmate) it sure is more like "needle in a haystack". :P
if your searching forsoulmate it aint gonna happan like majic. go out, make contacts get around, and youll find her / or him. kill that notion about haystack, cus i already have several marriage proposals from my mothers friends'daughters. I personally hate the "when are you getting married please look at my daughter shes a graduate with honors." Or this one "When is your son getting married i have so many girls whod love to be with him." UHHHHHHHHHH. i hate that.
Ah, traditions and reputation. Yup, I heard a lot about that and hopefully am not concerned with such familial/community of origin pressure. I can understand how you feel though... Almost like an arranged marriage.
Quarter Century Old eh? LOL. I hit that exact age mark this year >_<" Marriage? Companionships? Love? So far been a failure on all those aspect.
Not sure bout you guys, but friends about my age are getting married every few months. Been attending their wedding, and they kept asking, when will it be my turn ;__; *in before 'otaku dont have friends' ;__;
I know the feeling >_<" Not to sat friends, old classmates, schoolmates, collegemates, you name it >_<" A good year for wedding this year I heard O_o. Well, more money to be spent on attending those weddings (Chinese Customs, need to give Red Packet when given invitation) =_="
I'll just say "Awwww" to your personal story Danny. I'm glad you found the one and that you're happy with her (I hope it is that way! Seriously). "The percentage of unmarried men aged 25 - 29 has reached 70% compared to the 1950's where it was only 34%". OUCH! Looks like they really don't want to get married. But are those numbers biased by the fact it is about marriage only, that companionship is not taken as comparison and that there are other factors that enter the picture such as economic instability (for the world, countries, companies, families and individuals)? Money is a requirement if you want a decent marriage and stable, long-term relationship (Of course compatibility, trust and happiness have to be there too). As for myself, I wish to find the one in the future and get married one day (and I believe in true, long-lasting love and monogamous relationship as well), but if it does not turn out that way, I will remain a loner as default. ^^;
With Japan though it is a problem not tied to economics necessarily. Japan's population is aging. Nearly one out of five people is 65 or older in Tokyo. Young people are not marrying, choosing to not have kids or emigrating from Japan. There are not a lot of immigrants coming in either. Now add in the suicide rate of the younger culture. Those suicide prevention adds and this marrying advertisement starts to make sense. In 15 years it is excepted to 1 out of 3 people will be 65 or older. If the trend continues Tokyo will be a ghost town. Google Japans aging demographic for more info.
Yes, indeed... Aging population and less marriages is a problem for all developed countries worldwide.
Yeah, I've read somewhere recently that the projected number of Japanese people in the year 2500 or so, if trends continue and no apocalyptic events happen, will be like 30 or something.
lol awesome story on Girl 4. I don't think I would dare to do what you did ^^;;
Whahahaha, those where some funny love stories :). But, Ariel, wtf:P Oo
Well, when you're a wee lad and fall easily in love... Ahem, what am I saying?!
Ariel is gorgeous!
Compared to your life, Danny, mine is more stagnant than water in a pail. Many friends, but no close opposites. Well, they did say that being patient has its virtues...
Off the topic but... "Row row...! Fight the power!" Lord Kamina in our hearts forever!
Believe in me, who believes in you" "Believe in you, who believes in yourself!!!!!!!!!
LOL nice avatar radical. but should have made the glasses red, anyways marriage will just make your lifes harder [i think] since you got to take care of children and you dont know when they might accidently burn your carpet, eat one of your plastic model parts, break a game CD, and worse erasing your game saved progress[ ooohhhhhh if i ever had a son or daughter that did that i would put them chained with large heavy math books and science books for 5 days]
Aniki!
ANIKI!!! LOL...
still looking for GF i dunno why... its just rare to see a girl that isn't annoying tho i don't really mind with annoying 1, as long the annoying part is still considered fine by me 17 to 18 and lonely here T_T(tho i don't regret it) lonely = free!!
decline marrage rate in Japan???? come to Hong Kong/China - girls out number boys by 10-1 so theres always someone or'some' ;P for you!!! me & girls dont really seem to mix - probably my taste in girl or probably the fact that i dont look like brad pitt or something. i admit that im not exactly the best looking man in the world - theres no need to tell me that. but. its hard to find someone who will accept you for who you are, someone whose not too fragile that wil leave you as soon as one of her or your mates joke about you eyeing up another girl. Ive went out with a girl like that - she was really nice accepted me for who i was but was always the first to walk out on me if something about me being seen speaking to another girl popped up. we were on & off but she'd rather belive what other people say then what i have to say. I dont cheat, & I would cut my own hands off before i even got close enough to another girl that way. I love cuddles & Hugs - Im an honest & open guy - if I really didnt like you or if i really did love you id tell it to your face instead of dragging it on. so far Ive found only one girl who was perfect for me, so perfect she literally could be my soul mate...sadly shit happend - things got really really complicated due to personal things on her side & she slowly started to push me away. I spent 2 years chasing her. trying to make sure she was ok - trying to be there when she needed someone to talk to, someone to listen to her, someone to hold her & tell her that things are going to be fine but no matter how much effort i put in we just drifted further & further apart & I went through a long period of depression - blaming myself that i that maybe i didnt do or say enough. i couldnt stop tearing myself apart mentally everday. looking at myself & wondering what im doing wrong & seeing if i could prevent the same thing from happening again. if there was one way i could explain my pain & my anger then it would be like watching a close family member or a close friend die right in front of your very own eyes. things are different today - i try to be not so quick to anger, but the most important thing is I learnt to let go. but its in my nature that once i get attatched to something its hard for me to let go
I understand your words well for I am of the same mold. It is quite difficult to be a good guy and to be taken seriously for a possible relationship consideration when there are so many jerks out there. And to be left stranded with definitely strong mixed feelings of hope and despair is one of the most painful things to live.
being this way has more or less ruined my life to say the least lol, Im single & have been for a fair while. I hate being alone. i think it sucks & thats a constant knife in my ribs or thorn in my side so to speak reminding me of everything, of everyone that ive ever loved & grown attached to & that makes me retreat deeper within myself making me more depressed & withdrawn because I cant seem to understand why its happening. after so long its just come to be as one of those pains which i hide or try to hide away from others. Ive had councelling. regarding a similar subject which has helped me out a lot. even though i still hide everyday of the hours im awake - its made the pain more bearable where as I kept having sudden breakdowns - moments of extreme rage/anger & moments where I would start crying & couldnt stop crying for no reason what so ever - but the crying usually happend when i was alone & away from everyone else. its not pretty...but what can u do about it
Yeah, it's when you're alone and don't feel like going for your hobbies that you begin to reflect on yourself and rethink of the painful moments... Myself I don't really know the best solution to avoid that.
well i just find something in the house to do - keeps my mind off things. usually playing Unreal Tournament 3 or Call Of Duty 4 releases some of the tension otherwise its just sitting around drink 20 cups of tea & thinking "aw f**k" either is preferable :)
I got your cure....It does not involve drugs, alcohol, or even partying either. If you live in the UK, or HK (it seems like it from your post). Best thing to do... UK...costs you some money but take the TGV to Monaco, french riviera or Marseille. Enjoy the scenery, you CAN and should do this alone. Its this vacation from drudgerdy thats going to fix you up. A man is man, that means, there will be ups and downs, go somewhere relaxing and beautiful and LIVE for the moment. HK....Same purpose but different things. I recommend two spots, one in Kuala Lam Pur, or Off the islands of phillipines, called Angel City. You come here to disappear. You come to create a new life a life unlike any other before. In KLP, you can easily vanish and start life live with people work and EXIST, you will forget about her. The other is Angel City, I know this because many friends including me have gone. You "DIE" and become "REBORN"....This is the worst of the worst. Think of that anime "black lagoon" and this is it in every way an exact copy. Get to the docks, and find yourself a job, work hard, and LIVE. forget the past, you wont need it here, and no one would ever care. Make sure you wear a jimmy hat when you pop those filipino girls though +___+. Angel city offers you hell, make a life there and live it, its worth it if you want to be reborn anew. Essentially my comments says one thing, LEAVE NOW. and LIVE for the moment not for HER.
yeah, Angeles City where tons of foreigners go to in the Phils because of the prostitution. is it any wonder a lot of children living there don't know their true lineage? By the way, if we're referencing Black Lagoon and being gritty here, how about going to Sulu or Basilan (which was in BL)? i'm sure the natives are very, very welcoming towards foreigners (bring your ransom money)
Really? Is the 10 to 1 ratio for girls only on HK? Since China has that 1 child per couple law, a few couples would rather keep a boy than a girl. From what I understand, there is a small epidemic of shortages of girls in China.
actually yeah its only for HK :) but HK is a part of china aint it?? :P arrrgh to tired to think
Yea the brits gave HK back in 97. I was kind of surprise that HK is like that with the guys/girls ratio since HK is under Chinese laws too. China was doing a hands off approach since the economy was doing well back than but I don't know now.
Holy crap, you're my twin... I hope to god you're not 34 and deaf, because then we'd have some serious checking up to see if we're related. Sheesh. I am serious that what you wrote seemed so similar to me. Especially the "I'm a nice guy, and everyone else are jerks" type comment. I'm the same, I value extremely high the chance of being with someone important to my heart, would never do something stupid to hurt them (cheating, beating, verbally abusing, etc.) because despite the fact that there are 3.3 Billion women out there (or at least female, a Billion of them are kids), it is painfully obvious to me that most of them are no where near what I can value to the point of handing her my heart. To risk losing that ONE or two possible people in an entire planet of humans, for "some of that patang, bro!" (being crude intentionally to prove the point), is just... I lack the words to correctly empathize the severity of how stupid it is... I wish you luck, dude. Seriously.
haha thanks matey - im actually 22! i will be 23 this coming august. I suppose being alone isnt all that bad. least i wont have a 2nd half bitching at me when i spent most of my income on lavish & expensive computer parts (yes I am a geek - but Danny is even worse, he knows programming code!!!) my fate is probably that I will turn out like one of them uncles who has no kids & buys his nieces & nephews stupidly expensive gifts when its their birthdays & Christmases. its kinda depressing as I will still be a lone but hey it makes me smile knowing I was able to put a smile on somebody elses face. Though I really miss being close to somebody - like you have the right to pull them out of anywhere or whatever their doing just for a hugs & cuddles :D ah well... stupidly rich & depressed uncle it is. I'll have a Bently Continental GT & a shoFer/Bulter called 'Mills' before sundown. when sh*t is that bad - you can try & clean it up or you can sh*t some more & be at one with it.
aw sh*t, just realised the comment wasnt aimed at me :D oh well I need more tea!!! Go-Meh ~_*
Umm, dude... That comment was aimed at you indeed, so no problem there. ^^
Quite right, if you are referring to my comment, it was entirely to you. D_Blade sounds like a nice guy too, don't get me wrong, but his words were not "my bloody TWIN" reaction like you were. Haha. I mean, I even have built my last three rigs (which means about the last 12 years I have built my own computer, and spat upon Dell and their likes), plus built two for family. Grin. I wasn't in a good mood yesterday, so I want to take a moment to say "hey, you're young still, chin up!". I will remain hopeful with regard to you, that you will find that special someone, who will actually make the previous years of roneliness WORTH it. After all, time spent with just a pretty face can not come close to time spent with the one who freezes time with her wonderfulness, right?
You are only 22 so your life is really only just beginning. Worry about never finding someone when you're 45.
Ha, dude, I am 34, and have been worried since I was 20, about ever finding a girlfriend. Trust me, it's time to start worrying LONG before getting to 45. Especially for me, my family history (male side) has no one for at least the last five male generation, to live past 50 years old. But, H sounds like a nice guy, and he said there's LOTS of gals in Hong Kong, so I will remain hopeful for him.
wow thanks for all your words of support :D & yes I have thought about going some place & starting a new but i need the money to get the ball rolling first. but prior to that i have other commitments which stop me from going very far from home. but in good time i will eventually sort myself out - get a motorcycle license & go do something stupid like riding from London to Sweden or something similar. & tsa, i stopped living for her a long time ago. but tell that to my soul. - Im the kinda guy who waited over 6years just to find a girl who dumped in high school because i was so naive & immature just so i could apologize to her & yes when i finally saw here again I did apologize. :) its who I am. whats worse is I made the last girl a promise that I would never leave her which made it worse for me when i started blaming myself when things went to sh*t. I dunno what it is - either i'm full of myself or I have my own Code Of Honor which i abide by & to stronger then any material known to man. I'm an honest man - to nice for my own good
Haven't had a girlfriend so far, probably because I'm way to shy and I expect a lot. I want a GF that matches almost perfectly and I haven't found one until now. Maybe that's going to change while I'm in New Zealand, we'll see... ^^
