結婚しない男女が増え続けている
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Sun 2008/05/11 21:26
wow...is yr wife reading this? lol u a very brave man...don't think i would dare do some of the things u did.
(ID #185557) Posted on 2008/05/11 21:58
Student by day, Superhero by night.
haha yeah, those were some awesome stuff you did with the flowers and everything. I'll love to hear more about the story with your wife though. :D
(ID #185640) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:50
me too, i like to know more about your wife. what's that special something that makes her unique?
(ID #185661) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:17
Pokemon master
3rd'd!
(ID #186077) Posted on 2008/05/12 17:22
4th!!! Your a braver soul then me, I've only had one girl confess to me, but I don't have the heart to run out and give a girl flowers. I'm such a wimp. XD
(ID #186099) Posted on 2008/05/12 18:12
.NET/Web Developer
5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th and 10th!!!! heheh ^^ Man, you are one brave and determined soul! I'd never be able to do the stuff you did. LOL. By any chance do you have pictures of these girls? Care to post any of them? :D I'm a fan of Kylie as well. I'm still amazed how beautiful she still is at her age. I still can't believe you chasing the car in roller skates. hahah! That would have been a sight to see.
(ID #186485) Posted on 2008/05/13 05:08
"I finally found her when working part time at a Japanese restaurant - she approached me first ^^; " Was talking about my wife ^^; I need to go into more detail about her then but will do so in a future post.
(ID #187237) Posted on 2008/05/14 06:52
Future Pioneer and a Dreamer
Ariel! I remember I did to lol. Please do post about how you met! ur wife that is
(ID #456764) Posted on 2009/01/22 01:50
security/3d graphic artist
well if ur married u usually have that talk before u get married on who you've been with and how many times etc. so this should be old news to her.. but still brave of Danny to post his intimates..:D
(ID #185979) Posted on 2008/05/12 13:45
If only all confessions involved flowers and extreme sports... But seriously, this was a great post. Thanks for posting about the personal stuff.
(ID #186027) Posted on 2008/05/12 15:18
Old as hell, but Danny, you are our Densha! :3 I feel pretty bad for you on girl #4 though... But now you get chocolates from idols! :p
(ID #580443) Posted on 2009/04/27 14:11
Engineer by weekdays, Hikki by weekends
I'm almost 1/4 century old , and still ronery ;__; Still finding the right girl. Not sure if my taste too high, or I'm looking someone thats impossibly as cute as kipi/arisa. Duh~
(ID #185561) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:05
Oh god Im turning 25 this october. Eh f it. Girls are a dime a dozen, (and for girls its the same the other way round) but really Im actually trying not to get into any kind of relation whatsoever. To me my career, and future success depends on me being focused enough that a relationship in the future wont be much of a distraction. But right now, I got GDD (girl deficit disorder) everytime I see a girl i wanna ask her out. Only way to control this urge is avoiding it to the bare minimum. If i loose focus and chase girls i cant be making the money which is very important now. hopefully will get back in the game by 26, 27, same age my parents met each other.
(ID #185906) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:12
"Dime a dozen" you say, but to find (and keep) the very special one (not to say soulmate) it sure is more like "needle in a haystack". :P
(ID #185911) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:23
if your searching forsoulmate it aint gonna happan like majic. go out, make contacts get around, and youll find her / or him. kill that notion about haystack, cus i already have several marriage proposals from my mothers friends'daughters. I personally hate the "when are you getting married please look at my daughter shes a graduate with honors." Or this one "When is your son getting married i have so many girls whod love to be with him." UHHHHHHHHHH. i hate that.
(ID #186711) Posted on 2008/05/13 11:36
Ah, traditions and reputation. Yup, I heard a lot about that and hopefully am not concerned with such familial/community of origin pressure. I can understand how you feel though... Almost like an arranged marriage.
(ID #187922) Posted on 2008/05/15 08:02
Software Consultant, Business Intelligence
Quarter Century Old eh? LOL. I hit that exact age mark this year >_<" Marriage? Companionships? Love? So far been a failure on all those aspect.
(ID #185923) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:35
Engineer by weekdays, Hikki by weekends
Not sure bout you guys, but friends about my age are getting married every few months. Been attending their wedding, and they kept asking, when will it be my turn ;__; *in before 'otaku dont have friends' ;__;
(ID #186024) Posted on 2008/05/12 15:12
Software Consultant, Business Intelligence
I know the feeling >_<" Not to sat friends, old classmates, schoolmates, collegemates, you name it >_<" A good year for wedding this year I heard O_o. Well, more money to be spent on attending those weddings (Chinese Customs, need to give Red Packet when given invitation) =_="
(ID #186040) Posted on 2008/05/12 15:54
I'll just say "Awwww" to your personal story Danny. I'm glad you found the one and that you're happy with her (I hope it is that way! Seriously). "The percentage of unmarried men aged 25 - 29 has reached 70% compared to the 1950's where it was only 34%". OUCH! Looks like they really don't want to get married. But are those numbers biased by the fact it is about marriage only, that companionship is not taken as comparison and that there are other factors that enter the picture such as economic instability (for the world, countries, companies, families and individuals)? Money is a requirement if you want a decent marriage and stable, long-term relationship (Of course compatibility, trust and happiness have to be there too). As for myself, I wish to find the one in the future and get married one day (and I believe in true, long-lasting love and monogamous relationship as well), but if it does not turn out that way, I will remain a loner as default. ^^;
(ID #185562) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:10
With Japan though it is a problem not tied to economics necessarily. Japan's population is aging. Nearly one out of five people is 65 or older in Tokyo. Young people are not marrying, choosing to not have kids or emigrating from Japan. There are not a lot of immigrants coming in either. Now add in the suicide rate of the younger culture. Those suicide prevention adds and this marrying advertisement starts to make sense. In 15 years it is excepted to 1 out of 3 people will be 65 or older. If the trend continues Tokyo will be a ghost town. Google Japans aging demographic for more info.
(ID #185692) Posted on 2008/05/12 02:46
Yes, indeed... Aging population and less marriages is a problem for all developed countries worldwide.
(ID #185866) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:10
Yeah, I've read somewhere recently that the projected number of Japanese people in the year 2500 or so, if trends continue and no apocalyptic events happen, will be like 30 or something.
(ID #186758) Posted on 2008/05/13 13:40
lol awesome story on Girl 4. I don't think I would dare to do what you did ^^;;
(ID #185564) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:17
Working in a supermarket T0T
Whahahaha, those where some funny love stories :). But, Ariel, wtf:P Oo
(ID #185568) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:29
Well, when you're a wee lad and fall easily in love... Ahem, what am I saying?!
(ID #185570) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:32
Ariel is gorgeous!
(ID #187238) Posted on 2008/05/14 06:53
Polytechnic Senior, Bronze Lifesaving Trainee, Mech Designer, Pokemon Indexer.
Compared to your life, Danny, mine is more stagnant than water in a pail. Many friends, but no close opposites. Well, they did say that being patient has its virtues...
(ID #185571) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:33
Off the topic but... "Row row...! Fight the power!" Lord Kamina in our hearts forever!
(ID #185575) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:40
Believe in me, who believes in you" "Believe in you, who believes in yourself!!!!!!!!!
(ID #185592) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:32
Raven, AMV & MAD maker, Otaku
LOL nice avatar radical. but should have made the glasses red, anyways marriage will just make your lifes harder [i think] since you got to take care of children and you dont know when they might accidently burn your carpet, eat one of your plastic model parts, break a game CD, and worse erasing your game saved progress[ ooohhhhhh if i ever had a son or daughter that did that i would put them chained with large heavy math books and science books for 5 days]
(ID #185614) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:12
五〇一軍团 TK8316 Singapore Garrison Public Relations Officer
Aniki!
(ID #185645) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:54
Chef, Full fledged Otaku, Full time Observer.....
ANIKI!!! LOL...
(ID #185726) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:52
still looking for GF i dunno why... its just rare to see a girl that isn't annoying tho i don't really mind with annoying 1, as long the annoying part is still considered fine by me 17 to 18 and lonely here T_T(tho i don't regret it) lonely = free!!
(ID #185572) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:33
Custom Pc Builder, Muppet, Pyromaniac, Demolitions Expert, Guitar Slinger,
decline marrage rate in Japan???? come to Hong Kong/China - girls out number boys by 10-1 so theres always someone or'some' ;P for you!!! me & girls dont really seem to mix - probably my taste in girl or probably the fact that i dont look like brad pitt or something. i admit that im not exactly the best looking man in the world - theres no need to tell me that. but. its hard to find someone who will accept you for who you are, someone whose not too fragile that wil leave you as soon as one of her or your mates joke about you eyeing up another girl. Ive went out with a girl like that - she was really nice accepted me for who i was but was always the first to walk out on me if something about me being seen speaking to another girl popped up. we were on & off but she'd rather belive what other people say then what i have to say. I dont cheat, & I would cut my own hands off before i even got close enough to another girl that way. I love cuddles & Hugs - Im an honest & open guy - if I really didnt like you or if i really did love you id tell it to your face instead of dragging it on. so far Ive found only one girl who was perfect for me, so perfect she literally could be my soul mate...sadly shit happend - things got really really complicated due to personal things on her side & she slowly started to push me away. I spent 2 years chasing her. trying to make sure she was ok - trying to be there when she needed someone to talk to, someone to listen to her, someone to hold her & tell her that things are going to be fine but no matter how much effort i put in we just drifted further & further apart & I went through a long period of depression - blaming myself that i that maybe i didnt do or say enough. i couldnt stop tearing myself apart mentally everday. looking at myself & wondering what im doing wrong & seeing if i could prevent the same thing from happening again. if there was one way i could explain my pain & my anger then it would be like watching a close family member or a close friend die right in front of your very own eyes. things are different today - i try to be not so quick to anger, but the most important thing is I learnt to let go. but its in my nature that once i get attatched to something its hard for me to let go
(ID #185576) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:41
I understand your words well for I am of the same mold. It is quite difficult to be a good guy and to be taken seriously for a possible relationship consideration when there are so many jerks out there. And to be left stranded with definitely strong mixed feelings of hope and despair is one of the most painful things to live.
(ID #185579) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:47
Custom Pc Builder, Muppet, Pyromaniac, Demolitions Expert, Guitar Slinger,
being this way has more or less ruined my life to say the least lol, Im single & have been for a fair while. I hate being alone. i think it sucks & thats a constant knife in my ribs or thorn in my side so to speak reminding me of everything, of everyone that ive ever loved & grown attached to & that makes me retreat deeper within myself making me more depressed & withdrawn because I cant seem to understand why its happening. after so long its just come to be as one of those pains which i hide or try to hide away from others. Ive had councelling. regarding a similar subject which has helped me out a lot. even though i still hide everyday of the hours im awake - its made the pain more bearable where as I kept having sudden breakdowns - moments of extreme rage/anger & moments where I would start crying & couldnt stop crying for no reason what so ever - but the crying usually happend when i was alone & away from everyone else. its not pretty...but what can u do about it
(ID #185590) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:26
Yeah, it's when you're alone and don't feel like going for your hobbies that you begin to reflect on yourself and rethink of the painful moments... Myself I don't really know the best solution to avoid that.
(ID #185623) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:23
Custom Pc Builder, Muppet, Pyromaniac, Demolitions Expert, Guitar Slinger,
well i just find something in the house to do - keeps my mind off things. usually playing Unreal Tournament 3 or Call Of Duty 4 releases some of the tension otherwise its just sitting around drink 20 cups of tea & thinking "aw f**k" either is preferable :)
(ID #185629) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:34
I got your cure....It does not involve drugs, alcohol, or even partying either. If you live in the UK, or HK (it seems like it from your post). Best thing to do... UK...costs you some money but take the TGV to Monaco, french riviera or Marseille. Enjoy the scenery, you CAN and should do this alone. Its this vacation from drudgerdy thats going to fix you up. A man is man, that means, there will be ups and downs, go somewhere relaxing and beautiful and LIVE for the moment. HK....Same purpose but different things. I recommend two spots, one in Kuala Lam Pur, or Off the islands of phillipines, called Angel City. You come here to disappear. You come to create a new life a life unlike any other before. In KLP, you can easily vanish and start life live with people work and EXIST, you will forget about her. The other is Angel City, I know this because many friends including me have gone. You "DIE" and become "REBORN"....This is the worst of the worst. Think of that anime "black lagoon" and this is it in every way an exact copy. Get to the docks, and find yourself a job, work hard, and LIVE. forget the past, you wont need it here, and no one would ever care. Make sure you wear a jimmy hat when you pop those filipino girls though +___+. Angel city offers you hell, make a life there and live it, its worth it if you want to be reborn anew. Essentially my comments says one thing, LEAVE NOW. and LIVE for the moment not for HER.
(ID #185920) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:31
Procrastinator Extraordinaire
yeah, Angeles City where tons of foreigners go to in the Phils because of the prostitution. is it any wonder a lot of children living there don't know their true lineage? By the way, if we're referencing Black Lagoon and being gritty here, how about going to Sulu or Basilan (which was in BL)? i'm sure the natives are very, very welcoming towards foreigners (bring your ransom money)
(ID #186004) Posted on 2008/05/12 14:33
Really? Is the 10 to 1 ratio for girls only on HK? Since China has that 1 child per couple law, a few couples would rather keep a boy than a girl. From what I understand, there is a small epidemic of shortages of girls in China.
(ID #186067) Posted on 2008/05/12 16:55
Custom Pc Builder, Muppet, Pyromaniac, Demolitions Expert, Guitar Slinger,
actually yeah its only for HK :) but HK is a part of china aint it?? :P arrrgh to tired to think
(ID #186604) Posted on 2008/05/13 08:20
Yea the brits gave HK back in 97. I was kind of surprise that HK is like that with the guys/girls ratio since HK is under Chinese laws too. China was doing a hands off approach since the economy was doing well back than but I don't know now.
(ID #186849) Posted on 2008/05/13 17:30
Holy crap, you're my twin... I hope to god you're not 34 and deaf, because then we'd have some serious checking up to see if we're related. Sheesh. I am serious that what you wrote seemed so similar to me. Especially the "I'm a nice guy, and everyone else are jerks" type comment. I'm the same, I value extremely high the chance of being with someone important to my heart, would never do something stupid to hurt them (cheating, beating, verbally abusing, etc.) because despite the fact that there are 3.3 Billion women out there (or at least female, a Billion of them are kids), it is painfully obvious to me that most of them are no where near what I can value to the point of handing her my heart. To risk losing that ONE or two possible people in an entire planet of humans, for "some of that patang, bro!" (being crude intentionally to prove the point), is just... I lack the words to correctly empathize the severity of how stupid it is... I wish you luck, dude. Seriously.
(ID #185695) Posted on 2008/05/12 02:53
Custom Pc Builder, Muppet, Pyromaniac, Demolitions Expert, Guitar Slinger,
haha thanks matey - im actually 22! i will be 23 this coming august. I suppose being alone isnt all that bad. least i wont have a 2nd half bitching at me when i spent most of my income on lavish & expensive computer parts (yes I am a geek - but Danny is even worse, he knows programming code!!!) my fate is probably that I will turn out like one of them uncles who has no kids & buys his nieces & nephews stupidly expensive gifts when its their birthdays & Christmases. its kinda depressing as I will still be a lone but hey it makes me smile knowing I was able to put a smile on somebody elses face. Though I really miss being close to somebody - like you have the right to pull them out of anywhere or whatever their doing just for a hugs & cuddles :D ah well... stupidly rich & depressed uncle it is. I'll have a Bently Continental GT & a shoFer/Bulter called 'Mills' before sundown. when sh*t is that bad - you can try & clean it up or you can sh*t some more & be at one with it.
(ID #185746) Posted on 2008/05/12 04:38
Custom Pc Builder, Muppet, Pyromaniac, Demolitions Expert, Guitar Slinger,
aw sh*t, just realised the comment wasnt aimed at me :D oh well I need more tea!!! Go-Meh ~_*
(ID #185749) Posted on 2008/05/12 04:43
Umm, dude... That comment was aimed at you indeed, so no problem there. ^^
(ID #185969) Posted on 2008/05/12 13:27
Quite right, if you are referring to my comment, it was entirely to you. D_Blade sounds like a nice guy too, don't get me wrong, but his words were not "my bloody TWIN" reaction like you were. Haha. I mean, I even have built my last three rigs (which means about the last 12 years I have built my own computer, and spat upon Dell and their likes), plus built two for family. Grin. I wasn't in a good mood yesterday, so I want to take a moment to say "hey, you're young still, chin up!". I will remain hopeful with regard to you, that you will find that special someone, who will actually make the previous years of roneliness WORTH it. After all, time spent with just a pretty face can not come close to time spent with the one who freezes time with her wonderfulness, right?
(ID #186229) Posted on 2008/05/12 22:52
You are only 22 so your life is really only just beginning. Worry about never finding someone when you're 45.
(ID #185982) Posted on 2008/05/12 13:48
Ha, dude, I am 34, and have been worried since I was 20, about ever finding a girlfriend. Trust me, it's time to start worrying LONG before getting to 45. Especially for me, my family history (male side) has no one for at least the last five male generation, to live past 50 years old. But, H sounds like a nice guy, and he said there's LOTS of gals in Hong Kong, so I will remain hopeful for him.
(ID #186224) Posted on 2008/05/12 22:46
Custom Pc Builder, Muppet, Pyromaniac, Demolitions Expert, Guitar Slinger,
wow thanks for all your words of support :D & yes I have thought about going some place & starting a new but i need the money to get the ball rolling first. but prior to that i have other commitments which stop me from going very far from home. but in good time i will eventually sort myself out - get a motorcycle license & go do something stupid like riding from London to Sweden or something similar. & tsa, i stopped living for her a long time ago. but tell that to my soul. - Im the kinda guy who waited over 6years just to find a girl who dumped in high school because i was so naive & immature just so i could apologize to her & yes when i finally saw here again I did apologize. :) its who I am. whats worse is I made the last girl a promise that I would never leave her which made it worse for me when i started blaming myself when things went to sh*t. I dunno what it is - either i'm full of myself or I have my own Code Of Honor which i abide by & to stronger then any material known to man. I'm an honest man - to nice for my own good
(ID #186603) Posted on 2008/05/13 08:18
Haven't had a girlfriend so far, probably because I'm way to shy and I expect a lot. I want a GF that matches almost perfectly and I haven't found one until now. Maybe that's going to change while I'm in New Zealand, we'll see... ^^
(ID #185577) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:46
IT-Architect, SysAdmin, WebDesign and Coding, Virtualization (VMware + NetApp)
I must say i am impressed! Danny! You have a damn cute side to you! :D Some of this stuff would make a good raburabu anime. ^^; I wish there would be more men like you, then i maybe would have a chance to find my "right one" too. ^^v Though by now i sort of gave up on trying, long story behind it but i spare you guys this time lol. While you talk about Kylie Minogue, recently there was an german article about her on the news that she stated she prolly will end up not being married at all since she didn't meet "the right man" yet, quiet of sad and shes such a cute women. But i believe it's maybe really hard for her due being famous and stuff.
(ID #185580) Posted on 2008/05/11 22:48
NO 2D NO LIFE
(ID #185585) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:03
Wibbling+Writing+Teaching
Why am I not surprised? :P
(ID #185868) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:12
Danny is very gentleman, always offering flowers, very nice of you man. Story for girl 4 is awesome lol 7 guys to stop you....... This is japan they told you, who care, love is the same in every country, you have act good, be proud.
(ID #185587) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:11
hontonbakane (登録日: 2008/01/27 18:12)
love is love. Damn I wish I was brave as you Danny! No luck with girls at all for me! I guess girls really don't like smart people.
(ID #185607) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:00
Smart is good. Modesty helps.
(ID #186706) Posted on 2008/05/13 11:21
WOW danny you are the modest straight foward and BOLD guy! All I can say is dam you have some serious balls! How did you meet your wife danny?
(ID #185588) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:15
>>>Danny I'm quite impressed with the stunts you pulled for girl 4. It takes real devotion. Though the part with your bawling your eyes out on a curb in the end kind of ruined it. ^_^;
(ID #185589) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:21
writing mini thesises
danny...I never thaught that you're such a cool guy...
(ID #185593) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:32
Chef, Full fledged Otaku, Full time Observer.....
didn't the dancing storm trooper give you any clues???
(ID #185727) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:54
Seconded. ^^
(ID #185867) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:11
writing mini thesises
it slightly did ^^;;;
(ID #197590) Posted on 2008/05/27 03:33
University Student.
Wow. Just wow. I didn't expect you to be the kind who will go the extreme as for girl 4. Not much happening in my past, as I used to be very anti-social and shy, so and even if there was a girl that I liked I wouldn't dare to approach her. Right now my mentality has changed, so just waiting to enter University and catch up on some lost time ^^. Do guys still do the picking up of girls along the road these days? (Case scenario girl 2) Most people I know actually find girls through friends/classes/hobbies etc, and not just picking them off the streets, so yea just find it abit weird. But if it works I might even give it a try one of these days ^^.
(ID #185595) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:38
The 4th story was really funny! You seem to have really great self-confidence. I'm taking it slow, I'm just 19 and it's very hard to find someone here in Sweden, since I have the yellow fever. :P I'll look for a gf in Japan ^^
(ID #185597) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:49
Likewise (登録日: 2008/01/04 09:44)
Somehow, all the women I like like someone else. ;_; And I don't really like all the women that like me. ;_;
(ID #185598) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:50
Animation Student
Hmmm... That explains your username... lol xD
(ID #185669) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:29
pepsi??? (登録日: 2007/09/29 23:00)
real devotion ryt there on story of girl 4...wish i could be as brave and devoted as u danny
(ID #185602) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:54
Anime Store Owner, artist, Web master
I'm engaged but for 18 years straight I had absolutely nobody since all my prior love interests moved away to another state or country...not because of me but because I had bad luck...actually good luck because I'm marring into a Japanese family now ^_^
(ID #185606) Posted on 2008/05/11 23:59
Kokoro Kotonoha's personal trainer
Marriage rate is also down? Because a few years ago i heard the birth rate in Japan was low. Makes sense, no marriage, so no kids. Here in the states it's quite the opposite, in fact here in Southern California, couples are getting married for the wrong reasons. When i say the wrong reasons, i mean couples are not getting married because of their love for eachother but because of U.S. Citizenship. Most illegal immigrants here go out and find someone only to marry them to get legalized. Some of the U.S. Citizen's actually agree and are aware of the concequences if they are caught in a false marriage. It takes 3 years to officially become a U.S. Citizen if you marry a U.S. Citizen. I almost became a victim of this. I was proposed by a 19 year old girl who i was in love with. Unfortunately she didn't have those same feelings for me and she was only interested in one thing and when i figured it out i had no choice but to cut her out of my life for good. I will not marry someone unless they are in love with me. I am interested in getting married sometime in my life when i find the right person but after my last experience i will have to stick to 2D for years to come. :)
(ID #185610) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:04
Part trooper, part -timer, 100% loser...
LOL Danny, after reading your post I finally realise things that happen in manga DO happen in real-life too... LOL I need to get myself a pair of rollerblades too...
(ID #185617) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:14
Chef, Full fledged Otaku, Full time Observer.....
lol... yes things that happen in the mangas are very closely related to real life...
(ID #185728) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:56
I might be getting into a relationship. She's english though but different compared to alot of UK girls. She's pretty much what I'm after but we'll see how it turns out. Yup somewhat like Neige. In terms of looks she's also pretty really.
(ID #185618) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:15
website/graphic designer
Aww~ you're so romantic Danny~! I'm really happy you've found someone you love and can be yourself around. As for me, I'm single, lol. I'm very shy and don't get out often, just church, city with 2 friends about once a month or 2 (they're guys, lol), and anime conventions when I can (only SMASH at the moment, Animania is so expensive u_u). I hope to find someone soon, not getting any younger xD;;
(ID #185619) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:15
website/graphic designer
Forgot to mention Kylie! I think she's still cute xD but I've never been to her concerts or anything. Scan the photos! I would love to see them =D
(ID #185621) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:19
Looking forward to those pictures too! I was at her concert in Cologne in 2005 and it was awesome.
(ID #185680) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:45
Dog of the Country
isn't the japanese government welcoming migrants over to japan? i hope they are willing to cough out some policies that could help the migrants cope with the high cost of living..
(ID #185622) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:21
*Respect* Danny. Don't think I could do something even if I had a crush. Is it a custom to give her flower when you are asking her out? Just wondering. Why din't continue with the story of your current wife? ^.^?
(ID #185624) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:24
chasing a girl with roller blades! you da man Danny. I think I have that courage to do it ^^;
(ID #185625) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:24
opps.. I mean I don't have the courage^^;
(ID #185627) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:25
Yah, actually Japan is opposite the world in regard to % men vs % women. I don't know the exact figure, but worldwide, women out number men. Though that may not hurt you if you're going to Japan to look for love, since apparently 56% of women aren't married. '~'
(ID #185635) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:45
Japan's Statistics Bureau states there are MORE women in Japan than men (age 15 or more). The percentage of those declining to marry "young" is increasing. We can't infer marriage has lost its allure - they are just choosing to take that option later. For one thing, careers are an option not available before. Where I work many women enjoy the career concept but hope to marry later and have a family. Could be a good thing. Maturity contributes to a better decision on an important matter. Better decision may result in a less likely chance of divorce later.
(ID #186709) Posted on 2008/05/13 11:35
五〇一軍团 TK8316 Singapore Garrison Public Relations Officer
danny thanks for sharing your love stories. do tell us more of your love stories with your wife. ^^ btw, i'm still looking for the girl of my dreams. she's probably hiding from me. everytime i get close, she runs away. cruel world u hate me~! orz
(ID #185649) Posted on 2008/05/12 00:57
University Student.
Didn't you just receive her in a box recently? Or did she decomposed already? ^^. Or well she could have already ran for her life since you were "abusive" no?
(ID #185698) Posted on 2008/05/12 02:56
五〇一軍团 TK8316 Singapore Garrison Public Relations Officer
i meant a real *breathing* human.
(ID #185717) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:28
Chef, Full fledged Otaku, Full time Observer.....
so what are you going to do with your "gf" when a real "breathing" human walks into your life???
(ID #185730) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:58
Hmmm, a good question there. I wonder about it as well. ^^
(ID #185869) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:13
五〇一軍团 TK8316 Singapore Garrison Public Relations Officer
sell it to the highest bidder? ('~')
(ID #186382) Posted on 2008/05/13 02:26
Chef, Full fledged Otaku, Full time Observer.....
whoa would never expected a reply like that... i bid $500... XD
(ID #186500) Posted on 2008/05/13 05:25
things don't look too bright in the land of the rising run... late marriages, less kids... who's going to support the baby boom generation?
(ID #185650) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:00
Danny, you are the man. I never thought you have so many experience. awesome on girl 4, chasing the girl with roller blade.
(ID #185656) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:06
ひきこもり/Hikikomori. Suits my current state more than a 大学生/University Student. ^^
All I can say is, wow, I just discovered a new cute side of Danny and the fact that.. he's quite good with women for successfully approaching quite a number of women in his life. ^^ I'd love to be as good but.. >_<
(ID #185657) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:07
2D all the way for me, so ronery. ^^;
(ID #185659) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:12
Am suprised that almost 30% of u guys don't wanna get married??
(ID #185668) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:28
wow thats savage danny... you got some big ballz to chase down her like that... すてきな。。。
(ID #185681) Posted on 2008/05/12 01:48
Wow. Takes a lot of ballz to be able to do half the things you did.
(ID #185691) Posted on 2008/05/12 02:46
Yeah truly, and it takes a lot of guts to spill all of your details of failure with a smile on your face to all of us loyal readers. Kudos Danny!
(ID #186762) Posted on 2008/05/13 13:43
Amateur novelist
I intend to marry some day, but thankfully I'm young enough to not have to worry about that yet.
(ID #185697) Posted on 2008/05/12 02:55
Wow how cute. Hahaha. But you seem to fall in love with quite high profile people. You didn't fall in love with a cute girl at your school or anything??
(ID #185699) Posted on 2008/05/12 02:57
that's is dangerous, in traffic jam with roller blade! i hope u had the protections. Have u touch eyes of Minogue?
(ID #185711) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:14
Wow Danny, thats an impressive sharing! I respect you more now, you have the guts to give women flower, I will need a miracle and a truckload of guts to do that ^^;...I also hope your happiness with her will always be.
(ID #185712) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:15
How'd you meet your wife then?
(ID #185716) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:21
I guess these days, with lots of educated people, everybody has high expectations. For me, sometimes a girl likes me but I don't like her, and vice versa. Also, I have trouble sharing my emotions. My inner me is locked down, kinda like a bunker. <br> Anime & manga have influenced my taste in women. I've been watching since I was a little kid, and right now I think I like strong, independent women (tsundere), but they still have to be beautiful :) And well-developed (in terms of intelligence, not boobs). I need an anime loving Asian girl with a Western education/mentality :)
(ID #185720) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:36
I don't know if I'd necessarily place the all of the fault with education, but I whole-heartedly agree there. Education does play a role, because at the root it generally incites someone to shoot for another person or group of people (in the case of friends) with higher goals, higher aims, different values (as in what they value in life, not moral "values"). Also, you have branches off of that as well, a lot of people are engrossed in their work, their passions, etc, etc, and choose not to have a partner, or view a partner as an obstacle. Also, people are exposed to a lot more information these days, and I think due in part to constant "entertainment" and being inundated with images all day long, almost subconsciously a shape of what a relationship is supposed to be, or what a partner is supposed to encompass becomes supplanted in many peoples' minds. I'm not saying that it totally alters a person's way of thinking about the opposite (or same) sex, but I myself have had a few female friends that go through guys like crazy because they're not "perfect". And their anal-retentiveness about what their guys should be like definitely -- at least partially -- comes from unreasonably high standards from, yep, education at a higher level, and their interest in epically romantic tales. Conversely, I have another friend who never finished her post-secondary and she's got a really savvy mind, and she settled for a total lunkhead that is like an assistant manager of a grocery store or something, with zero ambition to move beyond that. It makes me wonder if there are just people that reach for more and education is a component for that and they simply happen to be around the same demographic of people and that's why they gravitate towards them, or if education is really the catalyst for that reach for more.
(ID #186766) Posted on 2008/05/13 13:59
Haha I never knew Dannychoo was such a romantic. You should tell us how you met your wife :B You always bring flowers...that's something that all guys need to do!
(ID #185724) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:49
part time illustrationist, doll clothing seamstress
Danny, your stories are so cute! LOL they're like some scenes in an anime! LOL I'd love to hear about your story with your wife too :P (if she doesn't mind) well before I met my hubs I had some crushes myself ^^; road to love is hard dechu x_x
(ID #185725) Posted on 2008/05/12 03:50
Marriage nowadays are full of responsibilities and promises, people may start to consult lawyers before committing to a relationship, even if not, people still concerns what they can get out of the marriage. There is a story I heard from Hong Kong that a girl dumped a guy right before marriage because her mother told her that the guy she marries to cannot provide her wealth upon divorce or death. Celebrities now undergo a very high rate of divorce, and to me it sounded more like a trend than a serious matter to them. I am not going further about marriage, but I sincerely hope that people understand the true meaning of marriage before human extinct.
(ID #185733) Posted on 2008/05/12 04:09
Software Quality Engineer
These are really charming and touching stories, Danny! Especially the one about Nishida Hikaru! * wipes a tear away * I am so thankful that I managed to find my fiancee! She came from Sendai, Japan 8 years ago to study at the Art Institute of Chicago. We've been together since her graduation and now we're getting married in Sendai this September. I am very lucky!! ^_^
(ID #185755) Posted on 2008/05/12 04:54
Congrats!
(ID #185871) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:15
wow....now really got to know danny,hehe. for otaku age 25 to 39, more 2d girls is ok, but pls not get addictive to it. balance is the word. life needs to go on,and you need to feed yourself. i once confess to a girl at the age of 9 (u may call tat puppy love), we were ok for a couple of mth when i got her a handkerchief for her birthday.....n tat ended it. handkerchief on her birthday!!! later i found out the meaning of sending handkerchief but it was too late. sent flowers to a few girls i like and confessed but all got rejected,too bad,jus not handsome enough,but still friends n kept in contact. most of them got married same as danny when was young,run around following idols. mostly group photo with idols. most memorable was going after debbie gibson, a popstar at tat time. fav song : electric youth and lose in your eyes. a pity that the only photo i have have faded to also a white sheet n the negative is spoilt. sad
(ID #185757) Posted on 2008/05/12 05:12
those are some great stories, you have my admiration.
(ID #185759) Posted on 2008/05/12 05:16
freelancer,freeloader,noh drama and enka fanatic
I don't know if you're all(y'all i say) going to believe this but my life with a girl is somewhat closely related to Makoto Shinkai's Byousoku 5 Centimeter.
(ID #185761) Posted on 2008/05/12 05:21
I'm presuming you have that movie on blu-ray.
(ID #186007) Posted on 2008/05/12 14:37
Marrying after 30 would be a safer bet no? I mean in terms of (hopefully) having a steady career etc. Plus get to sample different flavours and figure out which is your favourite ^^
(ID #185763) Posted on 2008/05/12 05:28
I don't plan on actually marring anyone, but i do plan on finding that special girl, to spend the rest of my life with.
(ID #185765) Posted on 2008/05/12 05:36
Good job for not giving up! -high fives- But I think your forgetting your wife's story too... :P
(ID #185768) Posted on 2008/05/12 05:40
Regarding Nishida Hikaru, I'd admire your passion. I don't think I'd have the tenacity to do what you did. Now thats passion. As far as Girl 2, was that someone you knew or a perfect stranger? Most people don't have the courage to approach a perfect stranger, but then again, "Faint heart never won fair lady.." or so the saying goes.
(ID #185778) Posted on 2008/05/12 06:45
Whoa, you have shown more passion towards ones you have fallen for than I ever have. If I tended to like a guy, I never usually did anything and soon after would forget my feelings for him. Funny tho', the only guy I ever dated is now the guy I am married to. I never saw myself as one to get married just two months ago, especially at 22. I always thought I'd be like 30, or I would never tie the knot.
(ID #185784) Posted on 2008/05/12 07:12
I do have a boyfriend but i'm wayy too young to even start thinking about marriage.
(ID #185796) Posted on 2008/05/12 08:43
Student, Spiral Warrior
Glad to hear our host has an exceedingly healthy sense of romance.
(ID #185814) Posted on 2008/05/12 09:39
LOL!!! Danny, this is the most funny post that you ever wrote.
(ID #185833) Posted on 2008/05/12 10:18
Wibbling+Writing+Teaching
That's...really epic. And very cute. Thank you for sharing. :) Still with the single clan, always have been, but don't intend to always be...
(ID #185862) Posted on 2008/05/12 10:58
Not sure if anyone made a comment about this. But DANNY, have you had any sexual relations with any of the girls? I know it's personal, but hey you started it.
(ID #185872) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:16
Procrastinator Extraordinaire
Very inspiring stories Danny, full of ups (?) and downs...just as a rich life is intended to be. Almost to the point where I was thinking, wow, thats sounds like some J-dorama I've watched before. In retrospect, I feel I have been the selfish type all my life. All my previous relationships have always ended with me not really caring especially the last one. I met this girl in college once; we saw each other for a while. We seldom fought, broke and made up several times, I even cheated on her once (with her best friend, I am pure EVIL) and she found out about it but still she forgave me (one of the lowest days of my life). I even proposed to her once and she accepted but later recanted because she felt i was pressuring her at such an early age, we were both 19. The relationship ended when I had to move overseas for my studies. she's moved on, I've moved on but sometimes i think, that she really might've been the ONE. The next time I ever end up in a relationship, I damn sure will make it last and not be selfish or abusive of the girls feelings. regarding marriage, I'm an old fashioned romantic and still believe in it, typical loving dream of a house with picket fence, wife, kids, and a dog named Shep.
(ID #185873) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:19
awww, you're so cute Danny! Your wife is very lucky :) Personally, I am not the kind of girl who grew up dreaming to be the most beautiful bride. I don't really like the idea of marriage for some reason. Me and my boyfriend believe that marriage is just for parents. I think I would be ok with just being with someone.
(ID #185876) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:23
i'm still looking for the girl who would accept and like me for who i am ^^;;; and it looks like i'm having a hard time finding the right girl for me ^^;;;
(ID #185883) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:31
Very impressive, Danny. You sure have guts and you're definitely no shy guy! Sounds like you worked very hard. You deserve all the success you're getting now. Keep it up!
(ID #185886) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:37
Wow, so much stories and how daring, you got your wife's approval for this or she knows about it already ^^;? But I guess you have to work hard to find the right one but I hope that my right one will show up to me one day. If not, then single life all the way!
(ID #185893) Posted on 2008/05/12 11:54
Wow, those stories were both humorous and touching at the same time... Especially the story with Girl 4. I was like "aww", then "that's so sad...". Just a random question, but did you get to know the girl at the end of the story of Girl 4?
(ID #185909) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:20
Wow Danny, you're HARDCORE...pretty ironic that rather than chasing destiny, it came to you on its own...
(ID #185912) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:23
Interesting topic and story. Ah... the things we do when young! (^.-) From what I've seen, the trend is basically universal amongst "first-world" nations. Specifically in Tokyo I've found that below 28 girls prefer to focus on a fun time together - movies, restaurants, shopping, Disney, Onsen, etc. Over 28 they also enjoy a fun time - but increasingly are looking to "go to the next level" of the relationship. So... you can use that date to plan your dates accordingly. I'm new to Japan - and not Otaku (sorry) - but this site has been a goldmine for ideas on what to do and where to go. Invariably, on a date, I hear "You know Tokyo better than I do!" Thanks Danny!
(ID #185914) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:24
Oops! Typo. I meant you can use the article's "data" to plan... So much for trying to multi-task.
(ID #185917) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:31
aspiring to become a doujin and graphics artist cum lawyer
aww danny that was too cute :") Imma girl so yeah that was amusing too :D I think mrs. choo is very happy with danny-san :D he shares happiness for us boys and girls ;) I agree we'd love to hear a bit more about her too from time to time
(ID #185919) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:31
aspiring to become a doujin and graphics artist cum lawyer
oh i fogot... Im my country only in the urban areas have a higher percentage of women not marrying. On the other hand, kiddies get married as young as 14(?!) in the rural areas so I guess the statistics for unmarried women don't necessarily apply to all Hmm do you guys with gals have trouble when your gal thinks that they are competing with your 2d loves?
(ID #185929) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:41
Procrastinator Extraordinaire
marrying at 14? never heard of that before, and i've been to several rural areas in the Phils..
(ID #185930) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:43
freelancer,freeloader,noh drama and enka fanatic
it reminds me of 14 Sai no Haha(14 year old mother).
(ID #186000) Posted on 2008/05/12 14:17
aspiring to become a doujin and graphics artist cum lawyer
it's kind of a cultural thing...having to be forced into marriage to save the girl from supposed shame...if you get me. A double standard issue Not widespread but i does happen. Very rare the average is 16 at the very least :P
(ID #186158) Posted on 2008/05/12 20:40
aspiring to become a doujin and graphics artist cum lawyer
@necrophadian : and, oh where are you from? O___o; you made me *very* curious haha
(ID #186162) Posted on 2008/05/12 20:44
Procrastinator Extraordinaire
born in dumaguete, raised in cotabato, been moving around for a couple of years cross country from manila to davao. left reality when I was about 16.
(ID #187390) Posted on 2008/05/14 10:47
aspiring to become a doujin and graphics artist cum lawyer
wow O_O;; that's amazing~!! But yes, I admit you know our country much more than I do on more things than one *bows* :) i'm greatly intrigued that's all. Theologian? You're planning to be a priest and be celibate or am I jumping to conclusions? pardon me for too many questions, I'm just really intrigued (peace!)
(ID #187665) Posted on 2008/05/14 20:46
aspiring to become a doujin and graphics artist cum lawyer
*EDIT* you are a priest >__< my bad i didn't read properly!!!!!! my apologies!
(ID #187666) Posted on 2008/05/14 20:48
Aww... some of these comments are really sad! Men, listen! There are women out there! I swear to god, if you keep trying like Danny, you'll eventually find the one and she'll find you! And this woman will not be unfaithfull! D:< (BTW I'm female, so it's true.) I hope that one day I'll be able to marry a man that'll except my otaku-lifestyle someday too. Be yourself, and you'll find her.
(ID #185944) Posted on 2008/05/12 12:59
Leisure Consultant, Writer, Webmaster
lol great stories Danny! I meet a lot of girls, but so far nothing that I consider wifey material. Maybe someday, but for now, I'mma rock out baby yay!
(ID #185963) Posted on 2008/05/12 13:25
marvin (登録日: 2006/12/25 00:54)
lol I enjoy reading this post of yours so much. ^^ but what about the story of you and your wife?
(ID #185967) Posted on 2008/05/12 13:26
I'm in "would like to eventually marry, but doubts that he will ever even get a girlfriend" camp.
(ID #186023) Posted on 2008/05/12 15:06
wow! atleast you tried so many times! i tried just once and failed and dont feel like trying again! Already in my thirties and still finding someone! and like someone above said, everytime i find someone nice and feel like talking, i find her running away with someone else :( Oh well seems i have to wait a lot longer to find the girl for me ^-^
(ID #186052) Posted on 2008/05/12 16:16
Pokemon master
I loved story #4. ^^ I'm not interested in getting involved with anyone right now, but planning to in the future.
(ID #186082) Posted on 2008/05/12 17:34
Danny this made me feel a lot better. My relationship ended about 2 months ago. And I still feel a little sad. But i'm getting there. Just 2 years of my life wasted. Hahaha.
(ID #186083) Posted on 2008/05/12 17:35
Engineer first, On-taku second.
Rollerblading through Shinjuku. Oh gods. Danny you poor thing. T_T Asthma is a horrid lifestyle. But still! Kudos to your hard work way back when!
(ID #186092) Posted on 2008/05/12 17:59
To me it just seems if I like her, she probably dosen't like me. It's not like I have "high standards" either.
(ID #186100) Posted on 2008/05/12 18:17
i just turned 29 and met my husband when i was turning 20. it took us 4yrs before getting engaged and then another 2 before we got married. over the years we've gotten so much closer. looking back at ourselves in the beginning of our relationship, we hardly recognize those people. :)
(ID #186101) Posted on 2008/05/12 18:27
Student and full-time otaku
Really Danny, you really amaze me with some of the stuff you simply, did... As for me, I guess I'm not even in the position to consider that, given that all girls just walk past me like I'm the next stone on the pavement...
(ID #186126) Posted on 2008/05/12 19:50
Dyslexic Social Studies student, struggling gundam modeler and gamer
Damn! Those stories were very epic indeed! You've have a colony load of guts Mr. Choo, I salute you! Right now, I'm afraid of girls... Once in my life there was a girl who actually liked me, but she turned her back on me when she knew that I was into Gundams and such,it literally broke me apart. It's OK, since she wasn't that pretty anyways, LOLZ! I admit that I am not the prettiest guy on earth, but to some extent I think I have some talent since I can draw and I am continuously being scouted by my school varsity, but I turned all of the scouts down... I hope one day, I can find that dream girl of mine who can accept me for who I am. Anyways, I'm still young so there's still hope.
(ID #186190) Posted on 2008/05/12 21:29
things that u've done really is....umm......daring. would've have never had the courage to do what u've done danny . I SALUTE YOU....
(ID #186201) Posted on 2008/05/12 22:03
Japan isn't the only county that's suffering from a declining marriage rate. Oddly enough, it's happening in China and Korea (highest divorce rate in Asia, if not the world) as well; not sure about the rest of the Asian continent. In China the reason is commonly blamed on the gender imbalance (more boys than girls because the Chinese are old-fashioned), but statistics/surveys in places like Hong Kong and Taiwan show that many young women of "marrying age" prefer to stay single. The theories are rampant as to why, ranging the ever so common "most men are strange and scary" to "I just don't want to." Many experts say it's also due to the fact that many working women like to work and realize that once they get married, they will have a family and pretty much lose all that they've gained professionally. I can see this also being one of the prevailing ideas regarding Japanese marriage rates, but I'm pretty sure that the legions of otaku also scare quite a lot of the ladies away. lawl
(ID #186307) Posted on 2008/05/13 01:19
.NET/Web Developer
I've already found the perfect girl for me. Never thought she'd be it when I first saw her. I've only liked 3 girls in my lifetime. First one I met when I was still in grade school but never had the courage to speak up to her up till college. Found out she already had a bf and it utterly destroyed me. LOL. Second one I still find amazing and we remain very close friends to this day but I don't think it'll ever go more than that. Third one I met at a dance practice session and from then on the rest was history. She may not be as beautiful as the first two but she has everything else I've looked for. Totally unexpected really. :D Plan to settle down around 29-31.
(ID #186495) Posted on 2008/05/13 05:19
オタク all day long
I want to get married but I don't have a girlfriend now. =(
(ID #186618) Posted on 2008/05/13 08:46
Student Engineer
A very interesting read and a touching story, Danny. I am no different than some of the statistics- I intend to marry, but I want to find the right person. We have a similar problem in the USA-in that 1 out of every 2 marriages will end up in a divorce. Saving myself the heartache, I did not play the dating game in high school and I won't play it in College. I put the cause of blame on the curse of the engineer ( I am an engineer), but I also put the blame on myself because I am not going out of my way in search of love- mainly because it is the desire to not be hurt, and really that is costing me, tbh. Out of the millions of girls that I have passed by in my lifetime, maybe 10-15 have been caring people who are genuinly interested in being my friend. At one time, very early on I did have my own harem episode where I had 6 girls chasing after me over the course of a year or two. Unfortunatly one of them ended in me yelling atone of them, which I inherited from family (and family issues is a completely different topic). I vowed never again to yell at a girl, or anything remotely causing discomfort to a girl (don't misconstrue that =p). Since that day it was a struggle to keep that anger in check, and a couple of years ago I was able to control it rather than supress it. I think it is a huge shame and a big loss for many of the girls that refuse to get to know me. Maybe it is partly my fault because I am very guarded- but when people get to know me as a person- they see who I really am. My attitude on life and my politeness has gotten me very far and has helped me to accomplish many things. I am one of those guys where you would never expect him to be a devoting and honest person that would be committed and very loyal in a relationship. I think, in part that not meeting the folks of our dreams is due to the fact that we don't want to hurt, and that we keep ourselves guarded. Some people are better at guarding than others- some can lower that guard a little, others like me find talking to those of the opposite sex a very hard thing to do. It has also been partly to blame on my environment and education choice- there are not a lot of female engineers on campus, I don't go to booze parties, I don't hang out with ditzes or glamor girls. I try really, really hard to find that one special person, and I always tell myself that I will find her, that she is out there, and that she will be the luckiest woman on the planet when we meet. One look at what I do with my life should speak volumes about who I am. Passion, attention to detail, and a listener. I always said that I had no girlfriend because I thought my expectations were too high, when in reality I was guarding myself too much. It is very disheartening to see your brothers, sisters, friends and cousins getting married or are in a relationship. My sister has a boyfriend. My best friend has a girlfriend. My cousin is getting married in two weeks- and everyone on my mother's side of the family is in a relationship. But I am the one who isn't in a relationship, and it can be very disheartening when relatives ask "does he have a girlfriend yet?". It hurts to hear it, but I am not angry with anyone because they don't know of my struggle. I get back up and continue on. She is out there, and once I meet her she will know that I am the right one also. I gurantee it.
(ID #186660) Posted on 2008/05/13 09:42
i get the same reactions from relatives on family events and party's. it's really annoying when always asked about but you just don't wanna hear about it because you can't be bothered with relationships at this point in time.
(ID #189119) Posted on 2008/05/16 23:16
That's weird, but seems to be true. Fate and God will decide when I'll get married.
(ID #186681) Posted on 2008/05/13 10:04
Troubleshooter, Universal Exports
Shame Shame on all of you! You call yourselves members of dannychoo.com and don't know of the past. ^o^ Seriously, go read this post on Tokyo Tower to learn a little more about Danny and his wife. http://www.dannychoo.com/adp/eng/709/Tokyo+Tower.html Way to go Danny! Always take life by the horns! I've jumped in before with both feet. Once on a whim I gave a girl flowers who I had meet only a few hours before. She laughed at me too when I gave her the flowers. T_T Hey, always pick yourself up and get back on the bike. My fiancee decided we where getting married a long time ago. ^^ Dating for nearly four years now, we will get married June 2nd in Osaka. It has not been easy dating for nearly four years and being over 4,000 miles and one day apart. I think what works is we where friends long before we decided to get married. I guess I should say before she decided to tell me we where getting married. ^o^ I tend to think it's the other way around throughout most of the world. It feels like more women than men most places I have been. I do hear from my fiancee's single friends that it's hard to find a good man in Japan. Many of the Japanese guys I know are busy making their future and will get married when the time is right. I can tell that Japanese guys feel a lot of pressure that Japanese women don't. Like many cultures, the rules and expectations for the women have changed more than they have for men. I was always wonder where I would find my future wife when I was younger too. For a long time I thought I would never get married. However, after living alone for many years I found that would never work.
(ID #186721) Posted on 2008/05/13 11:57
"Can't win if you don't play." "If you don't ask, you don't get." "Never let fear of failure prevent you from trying." Sorry for the cliches but they're true. Share what you have to offer. Your partner will see it. Those that don't see it can still be friends. Can't have too many friends - but only one partner. A lot of "shy" comments. Shy is good (when it is modesty and not cowardice). "Bold" has its place - but certainly short of "stalking". (^.-) Relationships are a partnership. I am who I am but I share that with her - and she shares who she is with me. Give and take. We are not exactly alike - but that's what makes it interesting. And, since marriage is the core topic, I've had girls in Japan come into the relationship focused on getting a proposal. So, it's not dead... not yet anyway.
(ID #186726) Posted on 2008/05/13 12:16
Troubleshooter, Universal Exports
Well said and very true about Japanese women! Forrest Gump's mother may have said, "life is like a box of chocolates..." I say, "Life is like a Nike commercial... Just do it."
(ID #186729) Posted on 2008/05/13 12:27
I think another thing that living in a developed nation brings out in people is structure and a plan for everything. A lot of people wonder if it's a good idea to marry because of the responsibility it entails, they're daunted by choices, "is something better going to come along while I'm married?" and ultimately a lot of people are just plain fickle. The larger number of people, historically used to live out of necessity and had little time to be "existential" like people in modern society are. People now have a lot more time to consider and think about things (even though few do, the only reason they think about things like partners is because sex pretty much drives the whole universe) and that can always lead to more doubt, more time to reflect on problems, heh, more time for infidelity.... Plus a lot of people think of marriage as a contract anymore, with divorces being based on money and finance or lack theref more times than not. It's really hard to believe that there are people that stay happy with each other for such long spans of time out there. I'm a hopeless romantic and I devote myself utterly to whoever I'm with, often times scarring me in the process, but I still end up doing it again. And I feel good about myself for it. Why play games and be mean to anyone you care about? We're here for such a short time, why not be happy and try to enrich the lives of those you hold dear? I personally try to strike a balance between doing what I'm passionate about and making time and such for those I care about. Doesn't always work, but..... hey life is a confusing maze ^^;
(ID #186775) Posted on 2008/05/13 14:12
I might just do the same thing! Except I don't skate...>: ) I'm actually going to Japan next week! Meeting up with someone I met last year...Hopefully, romance is in the air? >: ) If not, I should try meeting other people!
(ID #187623) Posted on 2008/05/14 18:19
Haha, how romantic, Danny :3 About the Marriage Rate in Japan... ¿how could men make it increase if they are so much time working? O_o
(ID #187710) Posted on 2008/05/14 22:36
that story about the rollerblade chase really had me laughing. no hard feelings but it's both a bit cheesy and hilarious imagining you chasing after a car, holding flowers after bodyguards pinned you down. that sounds like a script for a modern date movie to me, really :P if i would now imagine that you maybe hold up your fist, shouting "GUTS!" and going after the girl...i should be a movie director :D anyhow, that action was more honest and brave than anything i did so far. i'll give you that. as for me, everytime i watch the movie "the 40 year old virgin" (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0405422/) it's like watching my future self ;D except i don't collect as much figures and don't play the tuba ;P meh, whatever. early marriage is no issue for me anyway. more the career type of guy. i can enjoy, "Weib und Gesang"(german saying, roughly translated into "broads and song") later when i've accomplished what i wanted to do/become in my life/career. thanks for sharing that personal info unrated with your readers.
(ID #189036) Posted on 2008/05/16 21:13
Thanks for this post, its made my day feel much better. I love the part about the roller blades and all.
(ID #190382) Posted on 2008/05/18 13:20
student, vexillologist
About right after high school, a lot of my classmates either were married or found that someone they wanted to marry. For some, they already have a family before they got the diploma. Being a son a soldier, I move around too much to have a stable relationship. I do intend to get married, but I have to be planted somewhere for more than just 2-3 years to make something at least work.
(ID #190570) Posted on 2008/05/18 18:11
I do have a boyfriend and we've been together for almost two years now. It's a bit early to think about marriage, knowing that we're just almost two years into our relationship. We're saving up for the future though ^^
(ID #191420) Posted on 2008/05/19 18:53
Dropping computers, starting all over again at Journalism
Nice story... I read some stuff about declining marriage rate in Japan. And though I think it is kinda extreme in Japan, the phenomena probably is worldwide.... Has more to do with people not considering marriage to be that much important anymore than people not being able to develop relationships. This interview I watched had some japanese girls in their early 20's saying that they liked to date a lot, but didn't want to get in serious relationships because that would get in the way of their work and stuff...
(ID #191442) Posted on 2008/05/19 19:15
Oh, the stories really moved me. Danny, you're so romantic! :D And the news are interesting. But, marriage rate and the rate of the couples are similar? Because most of the people think that marriages are old-style or they don't want to engage themselfs for a lifetime. Or maybe they just don't want to have the marriage problems like the coasts, ceremony, and that stuff. Or, they just testing each other, if there are really a couple. Because if they don't like each other then they just break up and don't need to divorce. Don't you agree?
(ID #196852) Posted on 2008/05/26 02:28
wow Danny... you actually have quite a bit of courage :P. i've never really gave flowers to a girl, especially random ones I find at the shopping arcade... just no guts to do that sorta thing. the part about getting to know Kylie Minogue's bodyguards was pretty impressive too. As was the part about Nishida Hikaru with rollerblades. I wouldn't have done that out of fear of embarassment... but kudos to you for doing that. As for the getting pinned by the guards part... wasn't it a little harsh? lol =|
(ID #226793) Posted on 2008/07/01 13:00
I do not think that I will get married becaseu women are decetful and want to change us completly to the point where we do not have are own idendity. Plus on top of that I worked had to store myself a nest egg for retirement and I do not want some braud to take it all from me.
(ID #313690) Posted on 2008/09/26 06:58
IT Expert / System, Network, Security Administrator
Sorry to say that, but the Girl 3 was a total bitch. Good thing she dumped you.
(ID #360284) Posted on 2008/11/06 03:19
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